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I will start from the beginning so that i will be better understood, soo sorry if it is too long I and my husband met in one of our ICAN classes so we hit it off immediately, became friends, dated then got married. It was blissful, we had our kids, to me life was perfect till one day he changed.  He started picking fights on irrelevant things, wouldnt talk to me for days, i thought it was just a phase until one day he didnt come back home, after so much calls to family members, friends collegues at work, we found out he left the country with another woman, this was 4 years ago, we later found out he paid for the house rent for two years and he vowed never to have anything to do with me and my kids anymore. Even after pleadings from family members he still refused so i moved on, believing that one day he would come back to me because i believe his actions was not normal, he asked for divorce, i refused cos my bible is against it (luke 16:18). Since then God has been soo good to me, ...

I think my marriage is in trouble already. I am a civil servant, while my wife is a full time housewife. I work 8am to 5pm daily, but I have to leave home 6am and get back 8pm, in order to beat traffic. So anytime I return, I am always tired, like they say "body no be wood". We have a kid already, and our marriage is just 4 years. My wife always complain of my performance in bed. I can only last a round, and the round only lasts for few minutes. I have tried using performance-enhancement drugs, but the side effects are much. The doctor says I need a lot of rest to have a lot of virility. But how can I rest when I am hardly home, I wish my wife will understand, but she is always saying I am not man enough on bed. I wish I could satisfy her sexually too, I try my best to, but it is not just enough. I love my wife so much and I will do anything for her and our marriage. But in this case, I just don't know what to do. Please help save my marriage, my wife is an housewife and ...

Cynthia was my girlfriend at the university about 12 years ago. She parted ways with me when we were in 300 level because of a guy from her hometown who her parent wanted her to marry. I haven't been hearing frequently from her since then. I learnt that they got married in 2008. On June 30 this year, she sent a friend request to me on Facebook which I excitedly accepted, as a girlfriend I haven't heard from in more than a decade. Within one week of chatting with me on Facebook messenger, she started telling story of woes, how her Hubby's business isn't working normally anymore, how she lost her banking job, how paying children school fees and feeding has been difficult etc. I have given assistance on two occasions (totalling 50k), but she have persisted in making financial demand. It's not that I'm too buoyant financially but I have been managing to be above waters. I'm confused and embarrassed sometimes when a supposedly married woman with kids would unash...

I have been married for 7yrs now with 3 kids, the youngest is 5yrs old, for the past 4yrs i have been the one supporting the family financially, from feeding to school fees everything and it has been so depressing, the most anonnyoing part is that my husband has a high standard of living, i was not born with a silver spoon, even when he is broke he still lives like a rich man, he spends my money on things i dont approve of, i cry almost everyday because of his spending habit, he is not even doing anything about getting a job or even starting a bussiness.i feel like a slave an eduacted one, the latest thing he did that i got fed up was when he too a loan of 2m to put in ponzi scheme, the ponzi scheme is 30% and the loan he is paying 15% interest.that is not enough for him , someone introduced him to another ponzi scheme that pays 100% and he carried 1m from the loan and put , its more than a month now he has not been paid, he even carried my 550k that i was saving in his account to add ...

Hello House, Yesterday, my husband told me that during his NYSC days, he had a girlfriend in the state he was serving while we were dating. This was really surprising to me because he told me about all his escapades before we marry but he has never mentioned this NYSC girlfriend to me. I was serving in Abia state and he was serving in Ekiti state and he never gave me peace of mind, he wanted to know all I was doing in Abia state and never let me get too close to any guy meanwhile he had a girlfriend in Ekiti state and the girl was even visiting him in his house in Lagos. After telling me this, I was really surprised because during that period I really trusted him. Now am scared that now that we are married, he might have a girlfriend somewhere and when I look at him all I see is distrust. Please how do I handle this?

I live in a house with three flats and in one flat I have this couple who are my friends, the man is fairly educated and his wife is an illiterate. The both of them quarrel regularly and since I am not a busybody , I do not interfere , all I do is listen but something has got me worried when listening to their quarrel, the woman always use the child's paternity to insult the man, some of the insults go like this "Idiot man" "Lazy man" "Okobo" "Leave my children, nor be you get them, I go carry them go meet who born them" "Nor touch my children ooo,leave them for their papa" Surely this insults infuriate the man and his sometimes beat his wife, I myself who is more reasonable think his three children are not really his, The wife is a trader and comes home at irregular times which also lead to quarrels , the children also do not have some facial characteristics of the said man. I want to advise the man to do a DNA test ( only ...

Good morning. Since morning I have not been able to get up from my bed even as I couldn't sleep well last night because my heart has been troublesome. I have this married lady classmate/friend in her middle 20s while I'm in my early 30s (unmarried). I met her in school during registration (MSc) and since then we exchanged numbers and became friends. Her husband is in abroad and have not been to Nigeria since 3 years ago while she was still pregnant of her 2nd child. Some 3 weeks ago, she started telling me how she feels lonely in the house and how she has not been with a man since 3 years ago, complaining that it's not easy for her. I tried my best in advising her to start up something that will keep her busy apart from school, as such will take her mind off feeling lonely. She reasoned with me and thanked me. Still in same week, she literally asked me out, telling me how she loved me and how I'm the only person she has gathered morale to ask out since she was born.(...