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I will start from the beginning so that i will be better understood, soo sorry if it is too long I and my husband met in one of our ICAN classes so we hit it off immediately, became friends, dated then got married. It was blissful, we had our kids, to me life was perfect till one day he changed.  He started picking fights on irrelevant things, wouldnt talk to me for days, i thought it was just a phase until one day he didnt come back home, after so much calls to family members, friends collegues at work, we found out he left the country with another woman, this was 4 years ago, we later found out he paid for the house rent for two years and he vowed never to have anything to do with me and my kids anymore. Even after pleadings from family members he still refused so i moved on, believing that one day he would come back to me because i believe his actions was not normal, he asked for divorce, i refused cos my bible is against it (luke 16:18). Since then God has been soo good to me, ...

I think my marriage is in trouble already. I am a civil servant, while my wife is a full time housewife. I work 8am to 5pm daily, but I have to leave home 6am and get back 8pm, in order to beat traffic. So anytime I return, I am always tired, like they say "body no be wood". We have a kid already, and our marriage is just 4 years. My wife always complain of my performance in bed. I can only last a round, and the round only lasts for few minutes. I have tried using performance-enhancement drugs, but the side effects are much. The doctor says I need a lot of rest to have a lot of virility. But how can I rest when I am hardly home, I wish my wife will understand, but she is always saying I am not man enough on bed. I wish I could satisfy her sexually too, I try my best to, but it is not just enough. I love my wife so much and I will do anything for her and our marriage. But in this case, I just don't know what to do. Please help save my marriage, my wife is an housewife and ...

Cynthia was my girlfriend at the university about 12 years ago. She parted ways with me when we were in 300 level because of a guy from her hometown who her parent wanted her to marry. I haven't been hearing frequently from her since then. I learnt that they got married in 2008. On June 30 this year, she sent a friend request to me on Facebook which I excitedly accepted, as a girlfriend I haven't heard from in more than a decade. Within one week of chatting with me on Facebook messenger, she started telling story of woes, how her Hubby's business isn't working normally anymore, how she lost her banking job, how paying children school fees and feeding has been difficult etc. I have given assistance on two occasions (totalling 50k), but she have persisted in making financial demand. It's not that I'm too buoyant financially but I have been managing to be above waters. I'm confused and embarrassed sometimes when a supposedly married woman with kids would unash...

I have been married for 7yrs now with 3 kids, the youngest is 5yrs old, for the past 4yrs i have been the one supporting the family financially, from feeding to school fees everything and it has been so depressing, the most anonnyoing part is that my husband has a high standard of living, i was not born with a silver spoon, even when he is broke he still lives like a rich man, he spends my money on things i dont approve of, i cry almost everyday because of his spending habit, he is not even doing anything about getting a job or even starting a bussiness.i feel like a slave an eduacted one, the latest thing he did that i got fed up was when he too a loan of 2m to put in ponzi scheme, the ponzi scheme is 30% and the loan he is paying 15% interest.that is not enough for him , someone introduced him to another ponzi scheme that pays 100% and he carried 1m from the loan and put , its more than a month now he has not been paid, he even carried my 550k that i was saving in his account to add ...

Hello House, Yesterday, my husband told me that during his NYSC days, he had a girlfriend in the state he was serving while we were dating. This was really surprising to me because he told me about all his escapades before we marry but he has never mentioned this NYSC girlfriend to me. I was serving in Abia state and he was serving in Ekiti state and he never gave me peace of mind, he wanted to know all I was doing in Abia state and never let me get too close to any guy meanwhile he had a girlfriend in Ekiti state and the girl was even visiting him in his house in Lagos. After telling me this, I was really surprised because during that period I really trusted him. Now am scared that now that we are married, he might have a girlfriend somewhere and when I look at him all I see is distrust. Please how do I handle this?

I live in a house with three flats and in one flat I have this couple who are my friends, the man is fairly educated and his wife is an illiterate. The both of them quarrel regularly and since I am not a busybody , I do not interfere , all I do is listen but something has got me worried when listening to their quarrel, the woman always use the child's paternity to insult the man, some of the insults go like this "Idiot man" "Lazy man" "Okobo" "Leave my children, nor be you get them, I go carry them go meet who born them" "Nor touch my children ooo,leave them for their papa" Surely this insults infuriate the man and his sometimes beat his wife, I myself who is more reasonable think his three children are not really his, The wife is a trader and comes home at irregular times which also lead to quarrels , the children also do not have some facial characteristics of the said man. I want to advise the man to do a DNA test ( only ...

Good morning. Since morning I have not been able to get up from my bed even as I couldn't sleep well last night because my heart has been troublesome. I have this married lady classmate/friend in her middle 20s while I'm in my early 30s (unmarried). I met her in school during registration (MSc) and since then we exchanged numbers and became friends. Her husband is in abroad and have not been to Nigeria since 3 years ago while she was still pregnant of her 2nd child. Some 3 weeks ago, she started telling me how she feels lonely in the house and how she has not been with a man since 3 years ago, complaining that it's not easy for her. I tried my best in advising her to start up something that will keep her busy apart from school, as such will take her mind off feeling lonely. She reasoned with me and thanked me. Still in same week, she literally asked me out, telling me how she loved me and how I'm the only person she has gathered morale to ask out since she was born.(...

I've been dating her for close to 8months now, and at first she didn't want to make love up-to 5 minutes. I thought at first, maybe because we were just starting to date so she didn't trust me. Now we are engaged and arrangements for wedding is in place and still exactly the same experience. Today's own was like 1 minutes 30 seconds of penetration and she said it was okay. We don't make love often maybe once a month, but everytime we do, this is always the case and I'm starting to get frustrated. Is this normal? Please what can be done about this?

A friend of mine is going through this right now and she needs advise. she is in love with a guy from Benin, they both love each other. when the guy talked about marrying the girl to his family they said Capital NO cause of the girl tribe. The girl is from Akwa Ibom. The family had an issue many years back when their Uncle married an Akwa Ibom woman and they had serious issues in their marriage and then they divorce, so since then the family cause of the experience said no one from their family will ever marry from Akwa Ibom but can marry any other tribe. The whole family of the guy is saying no that he cant marry my friend cause of her tribe. My friends fiance will never give up cause of how much he loves the girl. My friend is really going through a lot now. please i need good advise so i can encourage her with it.

Hello sir, I just remarried my old sch mate. i told him how badly my ex treated me. he has been so loving to me and my sons. my worries are that he said his first wife was bad but is it normal to abuse mother of 3 kids on facebook, including her parents? he is always talking bad about her even to strangers. he doesnt send any upkeep to his kids. i pay my own bills but my fear is tht 'can a good man behave like this? we went to his kids school to visit and he was shouting and embarassing his kids cursing their mom. is he pretending to me or did the wife hurt him badly?

Hi, am Mary Ogochukwu from Anambra state but based in Enugu. Am 25 and a graduate. Am à devoted Christian girl searching for true love. Am averagely tall and slim fair and beautiful. Genotype is AA. Desiring a dark handsome igbo guy 28-33 graduate and working. A lover of God's word and righteousness. Here's my watspp number 07035652266. My mail maryunique2@gmail.com

I'm seeking for a lady who reside here in the US for a relationship. Could be from any tribe. well-behaved, Intelligent and non-smoker. Email me : desanyaolu@gmail.com Please send pics.

I have a beautiful, curvy, tall and fair woman in my compound. Her husband has been in America for 2 years without visiting once. She is clearly sex deprived. I am the only barchelor in the compound. She a 10 year old kid. This woman has given me too many green lights. It is just too clear that she wants to sleep with me, but I can see she is kind of careful cos of fear of rejection. She discusses everything in the world with me including how she misses sex and doesnt mind cheating on her husband. She didnt tell me or show me directly that she wants to sleep with me but from her expression and our discussion, everuthing points towards that direction. I have reprimanded guys who have slept with married women and would tell others not to indulge in such, but sincerely I am in a dilemma here. This woman is too beautiful to ignore and coupled with the fact that the husband hasnt been around. I am tempted to show her some real good signs too and just sleep with her. Plus some other bene...

when ever we have s€x, she always make statements that compares my manhood to that of another. when confronted, she apologize and claims she is not cheating..... am I been played?

Hello my people; I saw an unusual kind of case today, a man diagnosed of prostate cancer (a young man of 42) , was hiding it from his Wife and other family members, seriously hiding it from them, didn't want them to know any bit about it, andthe wife happens tobe avery pretty lady, running around helter skelter , visitinghospitals with him and seeking help anywhere she could, to help her husband, she's seriously broken And it got me wondering. Why should a man take such a drastic course of action. For all we know, that is when they need care and support most from their family, as they are the only true ones that will stand beside you. I really need answers... Why? Why?

Please I am in love with my best friend ex girlfriend, I'm seeing possibility of getting married to her. What should I do? Will there be serious issues (I.e problems) if I decide to marry her. Please your advice is needed... Thank you

i have always have a very close relationship with my siblings while growing up, which i have tried much to see that everyone is comfortable. i don,t based in Nigeria, but my family has always been my first priority. but everything changed immediately i want to get married. that i have to settle everyone first before getting married. they automatically ganged against me, that if i don,t settle that no one will come for my marriage. this really pissed me off cos this is the same people i have been struggling for over 10 years now. am no longer a kid if i start to settle i will never get married. this is really disturbing me, they only call you on phone when they need something. it really hurt when people you love dearly treat you like this. how do i go about this cos i have decided what ever will happen let it happen, let me look for my own life. i owe no one a dime, every struggle is me and me alone,

The issues behind my parent feud is something that has accumulated over years! Buh I ll brief it the way the story is: We grew up seeing my dad domestically abuse my mother to the point that she flogs her with cane n use fist on her.... These things have made me develop a level of hatred for him buh there's nothing we cud do to help as we were kids.... Note: the domestic violence reduced when we got into d uni buh it has literally stopped for some years cause he knew the children ll deal with him if he tries that.... I do categorically tell him I ll fight him if he tries that.... They are bold old now no strenght to fight again unless na mouth fight My mum is a workaholic n in turn she became d bread winner of the house cuz she earn more... Fast forward to the past 11 years my dad took to d advice of people I still regards as fools even when I don't know them.... The advice is "when you're dealing with a wife that is not submissive marry another woman to relegate h...

Hi everyone. I do really need your advise on what to do before taking action. I'm a young married guy and married to a single mother. Initially I never knew she had a son but when i got to know i accepted my fate and moving on. We now living together and had my own daughter for me. The step son started school now under my roof cos he's just a year plus now close to 2. I just discovered the surname the mother used to register the boy is her real dad that they never lived nor stay together. What should i do? is this really true love or i'm fooling myself? I've been taking care of this boy for more than a year now and this is happening. Please, what should i do? Thanks and God bless.

My friend, a self employed Mechanical Engineer is a widower, his wife died in an accident in 2013. He had only one child with the late wife. God has really blessed his hustling and his business is doing pretty well. Some of his friends including myself have been encouraging him to get married again since 2015 but he didn't take it serious until he visited my office and saw one of my students whom he said he love and would like to marry in April 2017. The girl is 29 while my friend is 37. Now the problem is that this young beautiful lady have vehemently disagreed with him on the issue of marriage. I have advised him to forget this lady and look prayerfully elsewhere but he keep saying he'll continue to try. I saw my friend on monday 4th December and as we were talking, he told me that this lady continue to reject his marital proposal but asks him for money regularly. He told me he has given her money on 4 occasions between July and October, (40k, 20k, 25k and 20k). He even show ...

I am a married man with a job in the financial sector. My wife also works too. I decided to put this here because I want married ladies/mum to comment on this and advise me if I'm going overboard. we have been married for over three years now and have a little son whom I adore do much. My wife has never really loved the act of love making. she is never really an initiator in matters like this. I have the one to always initiate the move and this is quite exasperating. was we manage to get down to the act, she responds warmly. Before we got married, I noticed she doesn't really like sex. I'm a guy that enjoys stuffs like that- romance, intimacy and the whole baggages. initially I thought it was just because we were still courting and she didn't want to let go completely so I thought she would finally relax when we get married, but I was wrong. fast forward to present time. our baby is almost eight months old and we have not done it. she keep giving one excuse about us ...

I'm a troubled soul. Here's my story in a concise form. I am 27, working graduate and dating a 27 year old working graduate too. 5 months into our relationship, my girlfriend became pregnant. She expected that I come see her people ASAP as they will lose their heads on finding out. But I'm not just ready to settle down yet... at least not until the next 2-3 years or so. Meanwhile she has someone disturbing her ever since we started dating. The guy claims to be madly in love with her as he wants marriage according to him. Now my girl told him it can't work based on her condition and he still persisted he doesn't mind and will marry her and take care of the baby as his'. I swore to my girl that I will never be alive and see my child growing up to think another man is its father; so she said she will have to terminate the pregnancy. After some thought, I felt guilty at the prospects of the baby losing the chance to live because of my ego and strong-head...

Hello all have something that have been bothering me. I am married to a family where betrayal of trust, gossip, eyeservice etc is the order of the day especially among the wives. Though they are all peace loving people but pretend a lot which I have noticed...but I try as much as possible to avoid issues, unecessary attachment etc hence I'm only friend to my husband people have adviced me in the past that when I have issues with hubby later I won't be able 2 confide to d sibling or any of his family but I don't even see myself involving a 3rd party or his family members in the first place. I only join them to celebrate and do the necessary family things when needed etc pls married women and men should advice hope I'm not wrong with this my method? I am only being careful cos I know how some peoples husband family have ruined a woman's marriage to her husband. Pls don't just read and pass advice. Thanks Pls I need advice on this thanks.

Sometimes I think I'm cursed since I broke the purity with my first love in 100l all the men who I have been having affair with always dump me after making love to me the first time. It has gotten to the point that I tried doing everything other girls do but it not just working for me. Please I need advice

I'm getting frustrated with the condition my father is giving me before I finally settle down. I will be 34 years this 2018 and would have married (with 2 or 3 kids by now) since but my dad gave the excuse that he didn't like the girl. I am the first son of 5 children, I am paying the school fees of the last child who is in med school. I have found me a wife whom I have planned getting married to by April. Now my dad is insisting that since we don't have a home in the village that I should build one before getting married else he won't come for my wedding and will disown me. I have already told him that I will build after my wedding but he refused. What should I do? Going ahead with this building will make me call-off my wedding till December or Next year. What should I do My People I need Expert Advice on this.

One of my close friend has been going through hell in her marriage. She confided in me and I don't know what to tell her since am single and don't want to give a wrong advice. She is married for 9 yrs now. And d marriage has been hell right from d start. She endured beating, low self esteem and tongue lashing from her hubby. He talk down on her to outsiders. he does not care who or what is around before he humiliate her. I have experienced this on several occasions . sometimes scars on her body. I do tell her to pray and fast. Maybe God will change him. But as d year went by, he becomes brutal. He told her to cut off from friends, he won't allow her families to visit her. Even if dey come around , his demeanour will signify they aren't welcome. He will sometimes beat her in from of d visitor. The recent one that happened was on Xmas day. He used mopping stick to hit her and almost killed her because she went to pick her clothes and her kids clothes from d tailor. He ask...

Hi, please I need honest and mature contribution on this matter. I love my wife so much, and I don't want to have a failed marriage, not so early. My marriage is only 18months old. This is my wife's first Pregnancy, but I am having serious concerns about the paternity of the baby. I trust(ed) my wife with all my heart and soul. She was away on a Job training for 6 months. The training finished on May 19th and we made love same day. She told me she last saw her period in May 16th so we both assumed she was in her safe period by May 19th before we made love. Actually we didn't want pregnancy or a baby yet because we are strained by resources for now. My wife started complaining of strong tummy pain, plus her period hadn't shown up by June 12, so we went for a Pregnancy test and she was confirmed Pregnant. In fact the Lab attendant told me she is very pregnant. Days after I went through her chat while she was asleep and came across her chat with some guy, the chat wa...

Around 23rd of Dec 2017, i travelled from benin to my hometown in Anambra state for the Christmas holiday. While on the way i called my fiancee who stays in Onitsha with her parents, i asked her if we could lodge in a hotel when i get to onitsha so i can continue my journey to my hometown the next day. She told me she can't sleepover as her parents won't let her ( as she was expected to cook the next day). So we agreed that when i get to onitsha i will come pick her up and drop her back in the evening. So when i got to onitsha i went straight to her house. And with the permission of parents , i went out with her (her parents knows me ). We went to a nice hotel in onitsha where i booked a room #9,500 (lodging). We relaxed have some drinks and food. We talked about how our wedding will be. I wanted the wedding to hold around June this year , but she wanted it early. We had a nice time together as it has been months since we haven't seen. After some hours together, s...